I too seem to be meeting lesbians in droves (and not just thru Dbud) and they have all been super nice. But there are just normal people like me and my friend so that is no surprise - though you know the old stereotype about gay men and lesbians only get along on pride day... but I digress - I guess my point is that it seems, anecdotally speaking, gay men and lesbian women maybe, just maybe are bridging the gap and becoming friends. Hmm this has just spawned a thought for a blog post, check mine in a bit to see if I can actually not get distracted and write some more on this topic...

But I saw Dbud and Mr. M out Sat night which was not planned and it was GREAT. I too love the smoke-free bars and it was only my 3rd time there. But it was so cool to have both my best friends out and about and my other friends co-mingling. Even Ira was out - it was a strange and very cool night.

Why str8 people come to the gaybourhood and call us names is beyond me. Would you go to Anacostia and call black people that word? I don't think so - don't do it to us, b/c one of these days some fratboy from Ballston is going to get his ass whupped. Gay men discovered gyms a while back and will eventually figure out muscles can be used for more than manhunt :-P

TJ,
Can I just tell you that I read your blog EVERY day. It's become a routine, like checking email.
I feel the need to comment. So sad to read that those mo-fo's HAD to make a comment as you and Rob walked on by. This thought came from a recent conversation that I had a few days back.

For every asshole out there that feels the need to make a negative comment about someone really has NOTHING to do with the person out there receiveing thier ignorance. What it boils down to is how low they feel about themselves. They know deep inside that they are not what they should be, want to be, or even believe they can be if they even try. Instead they project their shit to those they feel they are superior to.(which is usually everyone)
Even still.........if I were there walking with the two of you, even knowing that, I would have said something too.
Does anyone agree with my stance?

I miss you TJ. I wanna come visit and meet your friends. I feel like I know your friend TOSS.
By the way.......you look great holding Rob's hand.
kisses......

So sweet of you to comment, Penelope. You are welcome here anytime!

As an avid reader as you say you are, I would hope you know by now that Tos is spelled with one S and not two. :-) Let me use it in a sentence for extra clarification: Tos likes to have his salad tossed. Does that make sense?

He wants to meet you too.

"Pam S and Durbanbud, please report to the principal's office immediately!"

Oh Pamcakes, I can't wait to have a beer and hear all about the exploits that so often resulted in the above announcement ;-)

Pam,
We don't know each other, but any friend of Dbud's is a friend of mine.
Just wanted to say I agree with your comment completely, and if I'd been there when the hetero dickhead made his f'in comment, I'd have said something too, and possibly, depending on my level of intoxication, may have let my mouth get me in even more trouble. :-)

The funny thing is I fully expected a comment from these weasels as we passed them. They did not have the balls to say it to our face. Honestly, I did not care (could have been the 17 margaritas). I thought to myself we have the upper hand. These guys are young and are paying exorbitant amounts of money to live in this neighborhood or even worse they come here for “culture” but live in Fairfax or Greenbelt. Meanwhile, Mr. Dbud and I are going back to our place in the heart of the city which we own. It must suck to rent in this market. Too bad us queers (and cool/non homophobic straights) gentrified the neighborhood.

Ummm. I would like to say that there are some very cool people that live in "the 'burbs" who just prefer a life away from the noisy city. Nothin' wrong with that. Just want to clarify my partner's position before the hate mail starts pouring in.

Cheerio!

Ha! Ha! It's all non-smoking out here... you go to a club or bar and when you get home... NO SMELL!!! It is fabulous... whole outfits can be worn again and again... assuming of course you don't sweat like a pig in heat in Atlanta!

Hehehe...maybe Pam is onto something with "TOSS"...kinda like what he does with boyfriends?! LOL I know, I know...like I should be the one to talk. It's only b/c I love you...even if I have been kinda tossed lately.

Unfortunately, my neighborhood is not very conducive to same sex hand holding...unless it's father-son, which is something that I have been known to be capable of. LOL Since I'm big into city politics, maybe I should organize our first gay pride parade! I wonder if a group of gay citizens would be offered a ride through our neighborhoods on one of the fire trucks like all of the first place little league baseball teams that have been taking the tour the past couple of evenings? (http://www.pennsville.org/)