Depends on how long they've been together.....the first few years, sure, 3-4 times a week.

But after 10 years? um...yeah, not really.

And for you, 12 years? 3-4 times a week still? I'm amazed.

Sigh. 0

Q. How often?
A. Not enough

Q. Desired frequency?
A. Daily (assuming that you don't count sex with one's self)

Sore subject. IED is real: my poor cooter!

But really...the idea of a "norm" probably contributes to the problem.

after 12 years, a couple times a week works out just fine.

I've been with my woman for seven years so two to three times a week is usually how it goes.

Having no (permanent) partner, I can't answer the question here, unless you want to include single people and random hook-ups. In which case, two in the past seven days. Hey, I went to the *beach* last weekend!

In other news, you should probably know that Caribou Coffee's wi-fi also blocks your site as objectionable. It also blocks Jimbo's and Boysbriefs. But not the two Mac-based homoblogs I frequent.

When my partner and I were together, our average was about 6 to 7 times a week, sometimes a lot more, sometimes a lot less.

Sometimes I butter my own bread almost daily (wink, wink, nudge, nudge), but the frequency of companionable bread-buttering has dropped significantly. Lucky if it happens once a month now. And I always hold out for real butter. None of that margarine stuff. Too unhealthy.

I agree w/Paul.

After nine years, my partner and I make Dagwood Sandwiches 3 to 4 times a week. We both butter our own bread almost daily. I'd like to butter the neighbor boy's whole baguette right now...

I like a regular self buttering - sometimes daily, other times down to once per week.

But my partner and I have what we like to call Sexual Fridays. Although this week we were late and made it a Sexual Saturday Morning instead.

Recommendation: save sex for the evening. In the morning, that leaves you nothing left to look forward to for the day.

Now that the other half has recouped from his surgery, we have been buttering bread nightly this week... yippie!!!! hopefully we will kick back into our weekend fun too... after 5 years we still kick it pretty good... typically several times a week... and on the weekends, we let others enjoy our company on occassion... spread the butter, i mean love, i mean legs, i mean... oh hell you know what i mean... tee hee... have a great holiday weekend...

Hmm, partnered for 9 years with no consistent frequency of whoopee in the relationship or outside. Very frustrating indeed like much of gay life. Whoopee!

She's in DC so it should be the sound of cicadas, not crickets from her poor cooter.

Dbud should update the poll to answer the question we all really want to know about...

How many times a week are people getting Crisco'd???

I have this theory that same-sex couples who have clearly-differentiated top and bottom roles have satisfying and regular sex in their relationship for a longer time than couples who are constantly negotiating those roles.

DB: I totally agree.

Steven, I agree. Frequency was always high when I'd accede to my nature and beg to be the butteree: "Butter me! Butter me good! On both sides -- toasted!" Not so good when I wanted to be the butterer.

I'd like to hear some theories as to why the clearly-differentiated couples have more satisfying/regular sex.

Sex frequency for me...at present I'm on a variable interval schedule of reinforcement (wikpedia sez: "variable interval schedules deliver reinforcement for the first response after a random average length of time passes since the last reinforcement".)
I'd much prefer a fixed interval arrangement ("Fixed interval schedules deliver reinforcement for the first response after a fixed length of time since the last reinforcement, while premature responses are not reinforced".)

Thank Wikipedia and Behaviorism for providing the tools to describe my sex life in terms evoking a lab rat forced into an empty life of cocaine use and furious, desperate lever pressing.

Well lets see. we've been together for five years but I havent been fucked in over two.

pathetic.

Looks like BrettC has rubbed up against your man jake dakota... and then posted it on his blog... he should be dick slapped, and when it happens, I want to be there with a camera...teee heee...

I'm confused. I thought we were talking about shagging, but everyone's on about the amount of bread they eat. I thought us gays were supposed to avoid carbs! Bad gays! BAD GAYS!

As for sex, well, The Boyf and I are down to only a couple of times a month, when someone else isn't involved. And after only 2 years together. This isn't boding well is it?

I'm very interested in the idea that couples without clearly defined roles have less sex. This would explain alot.

I write too much. Sorry.

After 3 years together, twice a day pretty much without fail, morning and evening...he's so perky and energetic. Jeez. I'm tired, I wanna sleep...zzzzzzzzzz

After 21 years together, erectial dysfunction as a result of anti-depressants & blood pressure meds, it's an annual event.

Sex is a bit over-rated, when all is said & done.

AHEM... I have avoided posting under this VERY interesting subject because it is a sore one. My ideal relationship would be having a live-in horndog partner. I don't have that.

I only see my current one on weekends. I am lucky to get buttered about once a week. Drives me crazy.

I have been bitching about it lately. I think once a week buttering is grounds for D.I.V.O.R.C.E.

Or am I placing too much emphasis on sex?